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By Chief Parentologist, June 26, 2009 10:07 am

Dear Parents,

I am pleased to announce that IAP has initiated the Parenting without Punishment Campaign to serve as a starting point for social transformation and a catalyst for raising awareness amongst families in Singapore of the availability and merits of non-punitive approaches for disciplining children.

It is my pleasure to  invite you to visit the official campaign site to find out more about the possibility of raising good children without having to resort to ways that may cause physical, psychological and emotional harm to the very ones we love. 

I hope you will support the campaign by making a PLEDGE to Say YES! to Non-Punitive Discipline.  Non-Punitive Discipline isn’t a new parenting style, method or approach.  It’s been practiced successfully by many families for decades, although less common in Asia, where physical punishment such as caning or spanking is a norm. 

And if you’re still having any reservation about not punishing your children for their misbehaviours, feel free to contact us for further support.   Between now till 30 September 2009, IAP is committed to provide 100 hours of FREE consultation for individuals who are interested to learn more about Positive (Non-Punitive) Discipline. 

To mark the official launch of the campaign, IAP is offering two foundational courses related to Positive Parenting on a pay-as-you-benefit basis.  There is absolutely no excuse not to learn about this empowering and positive alternative for raising children.  For more details of the course, click on links below:

• Positive Parenting Essentials (25& 26 July, 2009)
• Positive Discipline in Action (1 Aug, 2009)

Together, let’s make the world a better place for our families, our children, and the children of our children. 

May your Positive Parenting Dream come true ..

Kenny Toh, Chief Parentologist

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By Chief Parentologist, May 21, 2009 6:51 pm

I have a dream.

In this dream, children are allowed to be children. They are loved and accepted for who they are, and not for how well they meet adults’ expectations of how they should behave. They are allowed to make mistakes, experience failures, and even occasionally ‘misbehave.’ Misbehaviours are met with understanding, empathy and nurturing guidance, rather than anger or punishment.

In this dream, the use of the familiar ‘carrot and stick’ or ‘reward and punishment’ method of behaviour management is reserved for the training of animals only, and not for raising children. Instead, children are treated with respect and dignity. They are encouraged to rely on their intrinsic tendency towards goodness, to be guided by their conscience, and to exercise their will to choose to act in morally and socially appropriate ways.

In this dream, children are raised in a growth engendering environment that enables them to develop a healthy personality and good character. They are nurtured with an abundance of love, encouragement, guidance and support. They are encouraged to play to their strengths and fully actualise their unique potentials.

In this dream, parenting problems, power struggles, and parent-child conflicts are gradually becoming extinct. Parenting is joyful, peaceful, rewarding, and fulfilling. Parents and children are intimately connected through relationships that are based on mutual trust and respect.

I call this the Positive Parenting Dream. It is a dream that I wish to share with you and other like-minded parents through my life’s work at the Institute of Advanced Parentology (www.advancedparentology.com).   

Stay tune for more on how to turn the Positive Parenting Dream into a daily reality for you and your loved ones.